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I remember a long time ago, I had gone on a day trip to Whitstable with friends to get a bit of sun and to have a few oysters. During the afternoon as we sprawled out on the shale beach, I thought I would have a quick swim as  it's  always been something that I have enjoyed since I was very little. The sea at whitstable doesn't look that inviting and there were long pipes leading out into the sea near where we were. Well I don't know what they were depositing and I had no wish to know but looking at the grey and brown swirling sludge I was slightly apprehensive about getting in for a splash around. I remember saying to my friends I wasn't sure and whether I would be OK or not. One of my friends said to me "Well you probably will if you think you are going to be but you probably won't be if you don't" and it has stuck with me ever since.  Photo by  Joshua Earle  on  Unsplash There is a lot of clinical data suggesting the placebo effect is incredibly pow...

One of the biggest problems in this day and age is that we get so much information about relationships coming into our brains from the internet, TV and radio and trying to make sense of it can be overwhelming. I don't know whether it's an instinct or purely social conditioning but most people that I talk to seem to want to be in a success monogamous relationship. (And full disclosure, I am in my 40s and I don't know enough about young adults coming through who may be changing that perspective). Biologically of course it makes sense when you consider that a majority of relationships are male-female bondings coming together for the purpose of child rearing. Unlike a lot of other animals, human children are incredibly helpless and require years of support in order for them to become independent. The brain is astonishing and that architecture requires many years of being built.   And so evolution being what it is, has selected for parents over the years that are attentive to th...